Conflict is inevitable in any normal healthy relationship.
The definition of conflict from the Cambridge is an active disagreement between people with opposing opinions or principles.
How we deal with conflict shows our maturity in Christ
A number of factors contribute to conflict, the primary one being - no two people are ever born alike and our perception of people and situations vary greatly. Some see a 6 some see a 9 depending on the angle which you look at it (your perception)
In my years of counselling I have found this - what one man views as being so uncomfortable and shocking another makes nothing of it.
That is why it is necessary in conflict to yes express your emotion, even be angry but do not sin. Even at that time of expression....it will help if we do these things the first one is breathe (while praying) the second is listen listen listen.
It is necessary to listen because we are not always right and a Spirit of humility will allow us to receive and consider another's viewpoint.
I will actually do a message this Sunday on the Spirit of Offence as I find so many individuals are so easily offended and yet they will say I am not. It is as if one has to walk on "egg shells" around some individuals.
Even this morning as I was asking God what to speak about he led me to Job 6 a place where Job was defending himself with his very friends. This is really the reading for me today as I had a recent situation as described in this chapter.
Please understand friends part of Godly dynamic relationships involve submitting one to another....speaking a word of reproof or rebuke and accepting that at some times we will agree to disagree but we will continue to walk together with the Agape. Agape love involves forgiving the unforgivable and loyalty (covering the multitude of sins).
Proverbs 27
4 Wrath is cruel and anger is an overwhelming flood,
But who is able to endure and stand before [the sin of] jealousy?
5 Better is an open reprimand [of loving correction]
Than love that is hidden.(B)
6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend [who corrects out of love and concern],
But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful [because they serve his hidden agenda].
None of us are perfect and bearing that in mind we should be able to accept others with their shortcomings, faults and imperfections.
I am praying for us all that God will give us the Spirit of truth, repentant hearts and that he will perfect us in love.
May we love as many:
In spite of ......
Through all of.......
With all of......
Amen
As I closed I heard God say I was to add this:
Exercise wisdom in whom you draw close. He tries every relationship by "fire" and therefore some individuals will only remain in our life for just a season.
Bless you my friends
I am praying for you
Walk Good in Christ
Till we meet again
Pastor J
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